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Books About Relationships

OK, if you are reading this you are looking for books about relationships. This generally means one of two things: either you are having trouble in your current relationship, or you have just had one that ended. More often than not, it is the first one and you are looking for advice on how to repair or enhance the relationship you currently are in.

It should make you feel good to know you are taking the right first step in that you are looking for resources to help out. Any relationship worth keeping is worth working for and looking for information or resources to aid in that regard just makes sense. But let’s take a closer look at what you need to find to actually help you. After all, there are many, many books about relationships out there.

You may have heard the term “book smart vs. street smart.” Many people looking for advice on their relationship will fall into the trap of thinking that just because someone has a degree or fancy letters after their name, they must be an expert. Let me give you an analogy here. The most successful coaches in sports more often than not are ones that have played the game before. They’ve been in the trenches, so-to-speak. Thus, when they share advice with their players, often it is based on practical experience and they know the actions and consequences that will occur as a result.

So following that logic, it is best to find a book written by someone who not only has helped countless others enhance or repair their relationships, but has done so for themselves as well. Someone who has “been there and done that”. So look for an author that offers practical experience.

If you have read some of my articles in the past, you will no doubt have read that taking time for reflection and self evaluation is generally a good thing. But it is not the only thing. Many books you find out there will entirely composed of just this one piece of advice and are not worth the money.

Here is perhaps the best advice I can give you in finding a resource…look for one that offers new and useful information. Not just the heresy you get from your friends, but fresh information that actually works from someone who has applied it.

Finally, look closely at the testimonials that accompany a book you may be looking to purchase. Make sure they come from a wide variety of backgrounds and even a wide variety of locations. You certainly don’t want to buy a book from someone who threw something together and most of their testimonials came from members of their family or small town!

Books About Relationships

People often seek out books about relationships to find answers to their relationship challenges rather than waiting for an appointment with a relationship therapist.

However, not all relationship advice e-books offer the same effective techniques, and not every one gives a well laid out plan that really helps.  Relationships are quite complex below the surface and due to that fact not many people out there realize on a conscious level exactly how complex they can be. Love and relationships are not an exact science, and care needs to be taken to select the best e-book to meet your exact situation.

For all of that, imagine how easily you can download, read and get techniques you use do this very day to start getting your ex back.

There are many books about relationships available, and they  can help you if you know how to choose the best one for your situation. Choosing a good relationship book should be something you really take the time to think about and put some effort into. You will need to invest some time and mental energy to find the best e-book, but in the end, your efforts will be rewarded, as you will be able to get the best book for your money, and will be able to use it to improve your relationship.

You can find lots of books about relationships on the market and e-books on internet, but unfortunately most of them have been written by people who have not gone through the experience, so their advice is often very generic and simplistic.

The recommendations they finally give are often useless and vague, and you feel no closer to surviving a breakup than you did before you started reading. With many of these digital books you find the advice they give in many pages could really be written in one page.  Many of them are useless as they are written by people who haven’t experienced what you have and are designed to suck you in at your most vulnerable time.

So, how do you find good e-books, ones that will give you the confidence of knowing that if you follow them you will get the results you want?

Here are a few tips you can use when searching for help with your relationships:

First of all, pay little attention to all of those fancy letters after the authors name. Some people seem to think that just because the authors have a degree attached to their names that it makes them experts in relationships. Although these initials will give you an idea of all the studies this person has, it is not indicative of their expertise in these matters. The best thing to do is to go for a book written by an author who knows all about these things “first hand”. This means that either they have been through these sorts of problems and have overcome all the difficulties, or they have helped lots of people to do it.

Secondly, seek out unbiased reviews of books about relationships online. Noticed I, deliberately, said ‘unbiased’ reviews, because, unfortunately many reviews are far from unbiased and are structured only to lead you to buy the e-book of the authors choosing. The way to overcome this is to look for evenness across the reviews, and reviews that point out both the pro’s and the cons of the product.

Finally, user your intuition while reading the reviews, if you feel ‘something is not right’ look elsewhere.

All About Relationships

Knowing about relationships and their keys, styles, and secrets to success is essential, because love is never easy to navigate. There are so many things you have to learn to create the loving relationship you crave: how to give and take properly, how to love someone without smothering them, how to give your partner the space he needs, how to deal with jealousy, how to be more considerate of your partner’s feeling–the list goes on and on, and you can’t hope to know everything there is to know about a relationship even if you’ve been in one for quite some time now.

There is one vital thing you have to know about relationships, though: A relationship is about respect. It’s not just about enjoying romantic dates, wonderful surprises, gifts, and laughter all the time. Respect is what will enable the both of you to resolve any conflict and understand each other better. When you truly know the other person, you will be more responsive to his or her needs, and be able to reach out selflessly.

Added Strength Together

Another important thing you must know about relationships is that a truly fulfilling one, which helps you to mature emotionally and grow with your loved one, goes well beyond being giddy all the time, and feeling like your heart is pounding and butterflies are fluttering in your stomach. Most people mistake these as the only signs of love, not realizing that these particular sensations abate after a while. As a result, some people think that feeling these emotions all over again with the next person they see means that they have to leave the one they’re with and pursue a relationship with someone new, when one of the secrets to a successful relationship is staying on even after the first blush of romance has faded and you are encountering conflicts that you have to tackle head-on, as well as face one sobering fact: that the course of love never did run smooth.

Relationships Styles

Each type of relationship can be considered to have its own unique style because its nature may vary in degree and involvement, as well as communication among participants, such as best friends or romantic partners. The degree of communication is actually the key parameter that distinguishes all relationships.

The style of communicating varies with every relationship style. Those who are in a romantic relationship are more likely to be intimate and use oral, written, and implied gestures which both partners understand. On the contrary, platonic relationships may be restricted to oral and written forms because they recognize their boundaries. This also applies to several other relationship styles. Those styles that are not romantic in nature mainly communicate verbally.

Relationships Keys, and Success

For any relationship to succeed, both partners need to understand the factors that can make this happen. Getting into a romantic relationship does not mean that both partners will enjoy each other’s company all the time. Well, there are moments when both need to work separately and have their own space. Partners who observe such patterns exhibit high levels of maturity in their relationship.

Quotes About Relationships

Relationships are hard work! Whether you’re talking about romantic relationships, sibling relationships, relationships with friends, colleagues and even acquaintances – all these forms of relationships bring with them difficulties, and relationship questions you’d like answering.

Well, I have good news for those of you looking for relationship advice online. There is an ‘easy solution’ to all your relationship woes, and that solution is YOU…

And that’s what this relationship article is going to be about. And, together with 3 quotes about relationships, we’re going to discover how WE – you and I – can improve our relationships by simply improving ourselves, and how we respond to life…

Relationship Quote #1:

“Problems in relationship occur because each person is concentrating on what is missing in the other person.”
— Wayne Dyer

So let’s start with a basic truism about relationship problems. If we continue to think it’s the other person’s fault our relationship with that person is going to continue being a ‘problem’.

I know that life would be a whole lot easier if this other person (that you’re having relationship problems with) would one day just realise how foolish they’ve been, if they’d just ‘see the light’, and admit that they were wrong; that they’d just change their ways.

But it’s not going to happen any time soon, mainly because it’s just not true. It takes two to Tango, in any relationship. Which means, no matter if a relationship is going well or going badly, it’s both your ‘faults’.

And that’s what Wayne Dyer’s rather succinct quote about relationships reveals.

So STOP, stop looking at what the other person is doing wrong and START, start looking at what you could be doing better. Start looking at the relationship from the other person’s viewpoint – a little bit of empathy goes a very, very long way. Talking of which…

Relationship Quote #2:

“Personal relationships are the fertile soil from which all advancement…all success… all achievement in real life grows.”
— Ben Stein

Yes, perhaps the whole point of relationships with others – romantic, or otherwise – is to show us ‘ourselves’, the good bits and the bad.

Of course it never looks like that, when we meet someone that we really do not like, that we argue with furiously. But these are the relationships we should treasure, he said counter-intuitively, because these are the relationships that are trying to reveal to us ‘secrets’ and ‘dark places’ that we’d rather not have revealed.

Relationships challenge us. And if we’re being honest, we know it’s NOT just because the other person is challenging. If we’re being honest – and being honest with yourself, and then with others, is a vital ingredient to having healthy relationships in your life – we know it’s because we have yet more to learn about life, and about ourselves.

That’s what ol’ Ben Stein means with his inspirational quote about relationships.

For when we recognise, then meet, then overcome our relationship challenges, then we grow as human beings, we grow…

Relationship Quote #3:

“The purpose of a relationship is not to have another who might complete you, but to have another with whom you might share your completeness.”
— Neale Donald Walsch

Hmm, and when we stop looking outwards for help, start looking inwards again, then we can then become strong enough to not need to be in a relationship, then we can begin to enjoy our relationships like we never have before.

Strong, healthy relationships are about being open (vulnerable) to what life (and your relationships) want to bring you. You do not attach yourself to specific outcomes, instead you trust that whatever comes your way you are strong enough to fully embrace.

And then, then you can share your completeness with another, and life truly will feel all that it can be…

Openness, vulnerability, and truly ‘being seen’ – all of these states of being will help anyone, no matter how ‘advanced’ and ‘wise’ they are, have more fulfilling relationships.

But it all starts with recognising that a) blaming ‘the other’ is not the solution, b) relationships are meant to be challenging, to teach us about ourselves, and c) when we grow as human beings, the quality of our relationships grows likewise…